We are creatures of habit and nature, and by extension, our habits if we are destroyed , then our lives will be miserable. On the contrary , positive habits and reproduction of a rewarding experience .
What habits characterize your union ? If you are struggling in your marriage , it can be one or more of these habits to be the center of the problem ?
Habit 1
Selfishness : nothing to do , especially in the context of a marriage to survive in an atmosphere of selfishness . If you are a person who wants to go out with them all the time , then the marriage is not really for you first. A successful marriage when both parties stand servant . Discover the needs of your wife and try to meet, within reasonable limits , of course . For
example , today will be your partner and ask: "How can I make your life
easier today? " Or "Do you want me to do for you today ? " When you are
sharing this desire and sincerity in their power to make and execute
the needs of your spouse voluntarily with joy and enthusiasm. If
you grew up in a " dog eat dog " and may be the development officer
mentality will be a challenge for you , however, makes a positive change
in this direction is the path to save a successful marriage , love and
always ask the question " what is best for you? "
Habit 2
There
is an uncompromising position : If you carry a resentment and
bitterness in his heart against her husband because of the crime he had
suffered , but it may be difficult for you , instead of having to take
revenge is necessary for your marriage to survive. Union does not thrive in an atmosphere of hatred . Take personally . What crime committed against a spouse who create a wall between the two ? Nature, we would like to keep grudges and abandon the injury may be more difficult for some than for others. Sometimes we feel the pain in the hands of those who died can be unbearable and the only time can heal these wounds . Can seek marriage counseling is a way that you can explore if you need to get a perspective on this obstacle .
Habit 3
Take each other for granted : take your spouse for granted and media does not give him / her the honor they deserve. Their
husbands , if your spouse has made a request for assistance in a
particular area , do not make the excuse that you're too tired ? However
, during the same space of time, if your friends call you on the phone
and invite you to play your favorite sport , food and develops suddenly
cleared. Wives , when was the last time you expressed gratitude for their husbands to be the provider and care of the family ? When was the last time I did a long time to be together to share a romantic evening ? Remember the days of the court ? You get the point . You conduct your best and did everything in his power to satisfy your lover . Do not let the pressures of life and work demands that affect their commitment to love and fulfill each other.
Habit 4
Report abuse : physical or emotional nature , if you are in an abusive relationship , then you need to seek help immediately . If you are guilty of being the aggressor , and the same advice applies to you, seek professional help . A healthy marriage can not survive in a climate of aggression with the couple .
Suffice it to say that a lot of attention to physical violence and progress and, in fact , should be abhorred the practice.
But did you know that emotional abuse is so dangerous ?
You
see, it is easy to see evidence of physical violence , but when it
comes to the emotional side is not easy to determine and can be very
accurate . For example , leaving your wife in public places and pass it as a joke , it can be considered harmful , but it's true . If
your words do not accumulate again or take a pleasure to be crucial in
the conversation , you may need to do some self-reflection . In fact , why do not you ask your wife if you are guilty of this practice . If in default , what good is that change is possible . Try
to develop the habit of hiring your spouse rather than condemn him /
her because the toothpaste is not the way they have learned to tighten
in a hurry .
Habit 5
Communications
negative : couples therapists agree that the interruption of
communication is one of the main causes of marital unhappiness . Not negative need to communicate set yet . It surrounds us every day . But just in case you are not aware , here's a list to get you started:
Do not allow your spouse to stop sharing their feelings
Arm yourself with the " crack" repels the views of your spouse
Yell at your spouse
Verbal bashing or condemning the attacks emissions feelings and opinions of your spouse
Listen selectively
To be involved in other activities while your husband speaks
This
list is not exhaustive , but is common adverse media which, if allowed
to continue any relationship threatens the longevity of the marriage. The good news is that the negative communication patterns can be corrected . Once
you recognize that the habit was devastating and expressed his
willingness to make positive changes in order to develop healthy habits ,
and you have taken the first step in building a culture and a thriving
relationship .
You know the proverb , " Knowledge is power , which " can be very misleading . In
an age where information is a slap in the face from every corner of
society , and the private family life and marriage should be prosperous .
The
fact of the matter is that if knowledge is not at our conscience , our
lives in the days , weeks, or months or even years will cause a
recession. 's Your relationship to new heights , must require the commitment of all parties to ensure its success . How do you want to change is a question that can be answered .
Today choose to be an agent for positive change in their relationship.
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