Marriage must be built on what is called " consciousness. " How many times we hear the word ? We often hear something like love, care , and we care about , and so on , but not this .
I'm sure you understand the meaning of the word. The main concern is that the four pillars of discussion is a manifestation of consciousness.
Pillar # 1: Affection
Affect is a form of love, but love is not normal what we know . Love know is selfish love . The condition is the real true love . We
often hear people say something like " I do not want " or " Do you love
me more? " Or worse , "Why do you love me more than me . "
Selfish love is always waiting for your spouse to do something for you . Do you still think of yourself , not your spouse or family. I was always the center.
True love gives . You need to put some effort into building a strong marriage . You have to make sacrifices . I love your spouse means that you must make him happy . Do not wait for your spouse to make you happy . Must be your wife . I know what you're thinking , this guy is too much. Here to be married . I say yes . Again, marriage is not the man for the fall high school girl . It is beyond.
You and your husband must help each other . Again, we can say or affection " true love " is to make the sacrifice , by giving priority to your spouse ,
Pillar # 2 : Respect
The truth behind the connection , is that if we respect others , others will respect us . This is a universal truth . A lot of people can not be done , especially in a marriage. Why do not we respect our partner ? This is because there is no couple is perfect. We still have our differences . None of the families are the same. Therefore, if we have different views , ideas, another way of thinking , it will not be a problem if we respect each other .
I will not discuss in detail regard. This is a problem in itself . But you get my point here . You
can forget of course is part of the development of self-rule , if you
can not perform this task simple , and respect for others . There are many courses teach us how to communicate with others . But how can you expect to improve communication with your spouse if you can not even meet this person? It is impossible . I think it is built on the ability to respect others from childhood . This
is why it is very important that parents understand the value of
respect and education of their children when they are still young .
I give you 5 reasons why we must respect our spouse
1). Noble equal
In the eyes of God , we are the same .
2). Our spouse is not our servant .
3). We have a husband is the father of our children .
This is probably the most important reason why they should respect her husband . If you understand this , there is no way you are going to ignore your husband not to treat your spouse the right way.
4). You will not have to have a husband with us forever .
We are human beings . We will eventually die . To make the most of your time together with respect for each other . Cherish every moment together .
5). We have had a husband is the son of God .
If we do not respect each other , and I can say that we do not respect God . Because we are all children of God .
Pillar # 3 : Forgiveness
We need to forgive others , forgive your partner . Why ? Because each family has its own problems . There are times when misunderstandings , disagreements and disputes must be done . Marriage is often on the verge of divorce simply because they can not forgive each other . Just wrong , and divorce is the only option .
The classic example , which is often found in your marriage is unfaithful to your wife . You think you can forgive your husband or your wife if she cheated on you? A difficult question, is not it? Well, if he or she is cheating on you, and the question you should ask why he or she cheated on me ? We must look within ourselves what is wrong with ourselves . Do not start blaming our partner , which is what usually happens , is not it? We have the ability to forgive us our spouse if he or she had been deceived us?
Please look at the situation closely . Because the power of forgiveness is the power that we ask God always . Think about it . '' Always ask God to forgive us . If you ever ask God to forgive us , why we can not forgive our spouse ? Because the way I see it , there are no errors large enough that we do not deserve to be forgiven . If you have the power of forgiveness , and give a new life for you and your family. I'm sure your feelings for your husband will not be the same, but with the passage of time and will come back to this subject. If the husband who asks for forgiveness sincerely , and I swear to you , or maybe even this promise , he or she must forgive . You should know that when you forgive your spouse , he or she repents and will not make the same mistake .
Pillar #4 : Gratitude
Last but not least , gratitude is something we need to achieve success and marital happiness . We must thank our husband or wife for something you think he or she has done for us to make things better . Often in married life , and the pair is so arrogant when his wife cooked good food , and keep quiet . Do not compliment coming from him . He
says " they are today .. food is very tasty . Thank you . What put it
there ? " This would make a woman feel you are treated like a queen. Do not you think ?
Really thank our husband or wife . Sometimes "thank you" should not be said . Just give him or her a smile , or simply said a short "thank you" will make a big difference in their married life .
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