How To Know If Your Marriage Needs Relationship Help?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Very few marriages are perfect, in fact, at one time or another, most marriages require some sort of relationship help. A marriage without a good relationship has little hope of lasting a lifetime. Should it last, the partners aren't usually happy or content and that is when trouble starts.

A marriage and a relationship are two very different things. In a marriage, you've formed a bond with another person that is before God, law and man. You are united until death or divorce do you part.

A relationship on the other hand, is a meaningful sense of well being formed after the marriage takes place that will grow and deepen as long as the two parties maintain their union. In many cases, the relationship actually begins prior to the marriage.

It isn't hard to tell when you need relationship help for your marriage. However, other people might notice this well before you do. Some of the warning signs include going alone to functions and then offer an excuse for why your spouse is not in attendance.

When you are together, you'll be criticizing or complaining about little things that are actually pretty irrelevant. You'll go to one extreme or the other and sit together, but rarely talk, Even if someone does speak, it's not really that interesting to the other person.

If your relationship needs help, you'll also have a serious lack of interest in intimacy. The spark has gone out and you simply can't rekindle it.

You no longer feel the affection and there are few hugs, no kisses and rarely are the three magic words of 'I love you' spoken. Humans require touch and warmth to feel like they are valued. Without touch, there is a serious issue going on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off as well. When carried to the extreme it can destroy a relationship. It ruins intimacy as one spouse is always worried they don't measure up. It tempts people to be unfaithful and it can cause partners to hold back their true feelings.

Make sure to not exaggerate the situation and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is a problem, you'll need to seek help. If intimacy is to be a part of the relationship, then jealousy must go.

Debt and money issues can cause relationship problems too. Not enough money to meet day-to-day needs is always cause for concern. But, if the couple is willing to work together and come up with a budget and live within their means, this will help to greatly release some of the tension.

When one partner spends more than the other partner the marriage is drowning in bills. The relationship then begins to sink and debt drains the life blood from the relationship.

Every marriage has its day to day issues. Arguments and disagreements are common and are to be expected. Do an inventory on occasion and give yourselves a check up. If you're not where you want to be, how can you move forward to get there? Fix what's broken, learn from it and move on. Life is too short to spend it miserable.




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