How To Fix Relationship Turmoil

By Roger Kelly


People spend half of their life trying to find the right person. Since the beginning of time the concept of love and relationship has already been around. However looking for the right person is not as easy as it sounds.

Along ones journey in life, you start to realize the importance of looking for that somebody to share your whole life with. Sometimes people do not need someone to complete them, just one person who can accept them completely. But there is no perfect relationship, there would be challenges along the way, and as it grows and keeps on, some happen to lose interest and starts struggling with intimacy.

The courtship stage is influenced by a lot of things. One example is with culture, there are cultures that have unified processes in courtship. Some are plainly arranged marriages, the kind that are already arranged by parents even before one knows about it.

In this modern generation, one will have the courage to ask for the other persons digits or contact information. They then exchange messages from normal conversations to admission of feeling. It is such a cliche but admit it, you would not normally respond and invest time if you are not interested with the person, in the first place. Then, they become official. They mark a label to their relationship.

Somewhere down the line there will be disagreements between the couple. The couple might not notice it but slowly they are drifting away from each other until such time they realize it is already too late. Constant fights and arguments often lead to loss of interest for each other.

As time passes by, individual differences start to flicker. Arguments lead to arise. Misunderstandings become normal and sometimes could go to extremes. A person would then start feeling the loss of spark. The intimacy in the way you used to look at each other is now gone. The tingling feeling with their mere presence most especially when they are near is now lost.

It is when third parties normally occur. The moment someone else produces a new spark and even if a person is still in an existing relationship, you cannot seem to notice that you have lost interest and starting to invest to a new one unconsciously. There will always be exception to the rule, but normally no one wants to cheat or intentionally do it.

Unfortunately there are some cases where the relationship is no longer worth fighting for. Letting go is the hardest thing for a person to do especially if they have been together for a long time. No matter how hard it is, if it needs to be done then it should be done.

Till one needs to finally decide that it is time to let go. You cannot be unfair forever, might as well, break it to them no matter how much it will hurt them rather than imprison them in a lie. Whether you hurt them now or tomorrow is definitely the same heartache. What matters most, if you cannot anymore save the relationship, at least save the friendship. Love is no easy journey. Hence, it is the humps and bumps that you encounter together that will make the ride worthwhile.




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